Everyone Needs A Friend. Do you have one?

Having a child with special needs can lead to many different emotions.  You can feel so blessed to even have a child but also jealous, sad, and a little bit cheated—for obvious reasons.   You may feel overwhelmed and in awe all at the same time.  It also means that at some point, you realize that your child is different.  And, because of that, you need a safe, calm environment in which to “vent” you feelings.  They will be strong at times and most every professional says, “Talking it out is the most important thing.” 

Having a child with special needs means that you’ll spend days, months, and (sometimes) years pretending.  Pretending that everything’s fine.  That he’s “normal.”  You’ll talk about delays, and pretend to feel relieved when family and friends tell you not to worry about them.  You’ll want so badly to believe that every baby develops at his own rate that you’ll try.  You’ll try to believe.  You may run with that for longer than makes sense because you don’t know how to make sense of the fact that you know.  You know something’s wrong.  That is nothing, NOTHING like having another mother with a special needs child or an understanding friend that can just listen.  If you’re thinking about someone right now, who don’t you give them a call.  They may need a best friend just a bad as you need one.